Category Archives: Success
“HARLEM HABERDASHERY’S 2013 MASQUERADE BALL BENEFITING THE LEAGUE”
Honoring Marcus Samuelsson, Syderia Asberry-Chresfield & Y.U.N.G. Harlem
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Harlem Haberdashery’s 2013 Masquerade Ball – a night of fashionable style, music and mystique; celebrating the “Who’s Who” of Harlem. Come dressed to impress in your favorite mask for a night of mystery and fun at Harlem Stage – The Gatehouse (Harlem, NY).
Enjoy Live Arts Performance | Open Bar | Live Music, Dance, Mingle & Enjoy Light Affairs.
Harlem Haberdashery is the “retail expression” of 5001 Flavors. Located in the heart of Harlem, NY, the bespoke unisex boutique is Zagat approved (2014 Shopping Guide) and listed as “One of the best places to shop in Harlem” by Racked.com.
The League: A Distinguished Gentlemen Movement, Inc. a non-profit organization providing community based programs and services to help empower and educate young men of color in New York City. The League is a proud recipient of OneMillionTrees grant for their “Greener Lenox” initiative.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
7:00 PM – 12:00 AM
The Harlem Stage Gatehouse
150 Convent Avenue at W. 135th Street New York, NY 10030
Music Orchestrated By
The World Famous Brucie B
Cocktails & Hors d’ Oueuvres Passed
Black Tie/Cocktail Attire Mandatory: Masks Preferred
Open Barefoot Wine & Bubble Bar
Premium Spirits & Drinks Cash Bar
General Ticket: [$55]
-General Admission
-Open Barefoot Wine & Bubbly Bar
-Passed Hors d’oeuvres & All Festivities
VIP Ticket: [$90]
-General Admission
-Exclusive Reserved Seating
-Six Complimentary Cocktail Coins
-Passed Hors d’oeuvres & All Festivities
*A percentage of each ticket sold will support The League of Distinguished Gentlemen’s Movement 2014 Programming.
Catering provided by Brooks Catering
Spirits provided by Barefoot Wine & Bubbly
Event Decor by NY Lounge Decor and Lambert Treasures
Event planning & publicity by Wilson Marshall Inc.
Harlem Stage Gatehouse
150 Convent Avenue W 135th St. New York, NY 10027
Saturday, December 7, 2013 at 7:00 PM -Sunday, December 8, 2013 at 12:00 AM (PST)
Dope. HH 1st Annual Coat Drive Mixer.
Harlem Haberdashery 245 Lenox Ave. Bet. 122nd & 123rd St. N.Y, N.Y 10027
Support. Next Saturday December 22nd, 2012 Harlem Haberdashery Presents The 1st Annual Coat Drive Mixer. Respect To All Who Jumped On Board To Support & Push The Cause. You’d Be Surprised How Unfortunate The Unfortunate Have It So Thanks In Advance For Donating.
All Coats Appreciated.
New, Old, Slightly Worn, Men’s, Women’s, Kids. All Sizes & Styles…Even Sweater Donation Will Be Appreciated. Our Goal Is 300+ Coats. If You Or Your Brand Would Like To Join The Cause Please Feel Free. RP. Regram. Retweet. Share. Join In. Thank You.
The Perils of Success Edition 7 (The Importance Of Fake Friends)
The Perils of Success Edition 7 (The Importance Of Fake Friends)
The thought of not wanting fake friends is unrealistic. If you logically think about it, not only can it never happen but the idea of surrounding yourself with ‘real’ people is fake within itself. Everyday we put on a smile and socialize with people we really don’t want in our circle, but they’re there.
The beauty of fake friends are obvious, they help you realize who your real friends are and in a setting of success they often go above and beyond with helping you. Most ‘fake’ friends support you and your dreams more than your “real” friends, so does it really matter? They may only be around to further their dreams but use them for their time and be cautious of their fake moves.
Eliminating fake people out your life is impossible, not dealing with them as much is more realistic, but how can you determine who is what? It really shouldn’t matter, or be voiced, about who’s real and who’s fake because time will tell.
At the end of the day if a ‘fake’ friend wants to help you reach your goals, that’s pretty “real,” use them the same way they’re using you.
To Be Continued.
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 6 (Something Is Missing)
The Perils of Success Edition 6 (Something Is Missing)
Something is missing here. I don’t know where it is or who took it, maybe someone killed it. Some people don’t even care that it’s missing. Aren’t we supposed to encourage thinkers and people of purpose? People of integrity, respect and values? Aren’t we supposed to respect their minds? But those people are the new outcast. Believing in something and standing behind it is now considered taboo.
Don’t be a follower, show me something, but soon as you present yourself as a leader and voice an opinion it’s too much, you’re coming on too strong.
Years ago being a follower got you nowhere, today its gets you the title of being normal. Many people never realize the potential they have if they spoke up. The best people to look up to and be inspired by are the people around you.
Regardless of who hates you or disagrees with your words you should always speak your mind. Many of us can’t differentiate hate from an opinion, someone not agreeing with us is too much for some people to deal with, so we say nothing.
Embrace Free Thinkers.
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 5 (The Benjamin Button Effect)
The Perils of Success Edition 5 (The Benjamin Button Effect)
Life can be extremely overwhelming, because of the demand for knowledge many of us peak at a very young age. Technology and the easy grasp to obtain knowledge make the world a smaller place. Years ago you had to travel to learn about the world, now we can do it from sitting in your living room.
Motivation is the hardest thing to find when you feel burned out. Who can you turn to for motivation or support when many around you feel the same way? Everyday is a hustle but the grind of everyday can prevent your hustle. That 9-5 job can stall you from your ultimate goal. It’s a vicious cycle that’s impossible to break because we have to work to have money to live but are we living if we’re not living our dreams?
The technology era and our generation require instant gratification. We work hard and prepare our self for a job market that doesn’t match or has yet to catch up to our qualifications. Over qualified is a saying heard all the time with our generation, but isn’t that the point to obtain knowledge? Wouldn’t we want the best on our team? We don’t work hard to get smart to be dumb, so what is an appropriate qualification? or level of qualification?
We peak young to make our lives easier when we get old, but the ‘Benjamin Button’ in all of us works against us. Its almost like “what am I working for? Why try?” The powers that be seem to already have our lives planned for us but let’s say fuck them and anyone standing in your way to reverse that growth pattern. Fuck Benjamin Button, his aging process and get as smart as you can. Over qualification simply means “you’re smarter than me so I’m scared of you.”
To be over qualified is to be ready and we’re waiting.
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 4 (The Pitfalls of a Stalled Mind)
The Perils of Success Edition 4 (The Pitfalls of a Stalled Mind)
How is it possible to be bored? Life is full of things to do and accomplish. At what point does our mind shut down from wanting and needing to learn new things? We all have associates that are more than content with living a mediocre life. Their brain has simply stalled from living a life of purpose.
When did wanting more or wanting your circle of friends to be better become a bad thing? The moment you attempt to encourage a friend who has stalled in life your ‘preaching’ but when did this become a problem?
How do we motivate people that don’t want to be motivated? How do you break them out of their comfort zone? Lead by example? It’s easy to lead a horse to water, they might even take a sip but show them how to make their own source of water and that might change the course of their life.
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 3 (The Friendships of Success vs. Failure)
The Perils of Success Edition 3 (The Friendships of Success vs. Failure)
Success is defined as, the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors. To continue to be successful it takes more than hard work; you need a strong support team. Failure lives right around the corner from success; failure is defined as nonperformance of something due, required, or expected. Just like success failure needs support; the people around you can both strengthen or weaken you.
In life the people around us define us. You are who you associate with, look around at your closest friends, that’s who you are; you don’t want to be that person? So you got to change your circle. Association breeds similarity.
People usually hang with people of the same interest and dislikes, it would be ignorant to try and fit in with a crowd not of your belonging. Many people seal their own fates by hanging with people who only hold them down. The challenge is to associate with a crowd that challenges you to be better.
Many people will never adopt this way of thinking because the peer pressure of friends wanting to hold you back will often win, they would rather not be judge and hang with a idle minded crowed but is that friendship?
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 2 (The Gift & The Curse)
The Perils of Success Edition 2 (The Gift & The Curse)
When did it become so bad to be successful? We all know people who would rather have a normal life than to carry the weight of success. With ‘mo’ money comes mo’ problems’ but have we ever asked why? Jealously? Of course. Envy? Most definitely, But why? Shouldn’t seeing another do well for themselves motivate us to do the same?
Success is a heavy burden; people expect greatness from 24/7. Many people would rather lead mediocre lives than chase their dreams, some just can’t handle it.
Good people turn bad, then most turn desperate chasing it, so why should we let that curse control us? What is the balance? Is there any balance or any common ground between success and failure? Your success defines who you are, it let’s others know what choices you’ve made and what your priorities are. People always assume your life to be perfect when crowned a successful person, in their eyes nothing can ever be wrong with you and everything is always all right, but people without your problems will never understand them.
It’s the gift and the curse of being successful. People rather devalue your problems because you are ‘successful’ and disregard any feelings and/or emotions you have.
When your successful people look up and down to you at the same time. One day we all hope to be at a place in life where we are successful, but with all the problems that come with it, is that what we really want?
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success Edition 1
The Perils of Success Edition 1
“Your Success Took A Shot at you, what you gonna do now? How ya gonna kill it? Your gonna become unsuccessful?” -American Gangster
With success comes many problems. As we all strive to be the best, success puts us to the test. Sacrifice is the key element of success, not sacrifice as in being or acts of selfishness, but self-sacrifice, that strict list of priorities and responsibilities that accompany your road to the riches.
Success is and can be a drug; many cannot and choose not to carry the burden of success, ignorant right? Yes, but for many it is a wise choice. With success comes the pressure of success, your life, your relationships, your mind all becomes one big distorted image. We all want success but can we all truly handle it?
Wealthy people complain everyday about the pressures and pitfalls of their success yet some still want and chase it. Many people confess all the time; their life was better when they had no money, why? Notorious B.I.G Said It Best Mo’ Money Mo’ Problems.
Money does not equal success; it is simply a way that society has chosen to weigh ones success.
Relationship seems to be the burden of ones success, we all want to be with and around people of success without truly understanding what it takes for them to continue to succeed. Do we as lovers or even friends understand how to support successful spouses?
Love and success can and sometimes do co-exist the only problem being time.
We learn everything about what it takes to be successful except how to deal with it. We all define success different ways, what can we do to make every aspect of our life work with success rather than against us?
By K.E.L.L.s
The Perils of Success (The Prequel: The Pachangas Movement)
”The Perils of Success” [The Pachangas Movement]
Pachanga is a infamous fictitious character from the classic gangster flick “Carlitos Way,” who sold Carlito Out for his own motives. The Song shows reference to that in which we all have “fake” friends and/or people around for different reasons.
In Life We Lose Friends Gain Friends Forget Friends & all together moves on from failed friendships. Phony, Fake, Back-Stabbers, Haters we’ve heard em all but with the recent release of Fabolous “losos way” we now have a new term to those friends with “motives” for being around “Pachangas.” We’ve all had em in our life, we all still have them around but what’s the problem? What causes someone to envy you so much that they either want your life, look at you as a come up or all together can’t stand you!
Believe it or not everyone is in your life for reason/motives YES! YES! They are! Do not be fooled! It’s A Hard Pill to Shallow but it’s true. Not saying all motivates are bad! We keep best friends around! Why? They comfort us in time of need! We search for love! Why? To have a significant other! But when did the pachanga movement start?
(Hook)
A thug changes and love changes
And best friends become strangers, Pachangas
Pa-Pa-Pachangas , Pa-Pa-Pachangas
Verse 1:
Everything ain’t love, Love cuz if it is
My definition of love must differ his
I mean every friendship has its differences
But these ‘Young Bucks’ remind me of ‘Fif’ and his
They hear the good life, wanna see what the difference is
Some just wanna smoke, enjoy the piff-vileges
He unwrap a cigar like it’s a gift of his
He a funny lil nigga like Eddie Griffin is
Between smokin’ and chokin’ then you got to live
So I gave him a chance and that’s alot to give
We ‘posed to make the most of what you was paid to gross
I gave you bread and butter you supposed to make the toast
Fifteen years, FIFTEEN YEARS
And now when we say ‘what’s up’ the shit seem weird
But there’s a question I prepared for you
How could you fuck the only people who ever cared for you?
A thug changes
With success comes admires most often young dudes who see your hustle or very rare a older dude who wanna join the circle. Over time they lose focus of what your doing to better your life & your success becomes theirs! They forget about the road traveled to get their & just see the result of hard work! Many people who enter privileged situations forget about the hard work to get there! Many times people with distorted definitions of success believe your life, your success is theirs, and then the BS starts. You give an inch they take a football field & distance their self forgetting who put them on.
Hard work looks easy when done right, so they may reach the same destination as you but the road they travel will be a lot harder. Pachangas who enter the ‘good life’ often see what you do as “easy” or your worth isn’t much, until they go out & try on their own. Competition wears heavy on the shoulders of a person who isn’t built to compete.
Verse 2
There’s a parallel path between friends and enemies
And whenever you cross it you make frienemies
There’s no remedies for these sick memories
My doctor said there’s no cure for the Emilys
Had a crush on you now we Kim and Cease
We don’t even talk no more it’s no biggie
I was so Biggie, you was Faith
I let you slide in my home, you was safe
I thought my ability to provide you stability
Was what was really G, okay silly me
I was Billy D, smooth cat but really street
Really she attract niggas like the A Milli beat
And I happen to rap but somethin’ ’bout this beat strange
Soon as I try to flow with it the beat change
Never thought she’d change
But what you thinks a upgrade really just could be a seat change.
Success & Love can & do co-exist but most significant others see your struggle & hustle as a transparent achievement. It’s hard to reflect with someone who wasn’t there from the beginning, when they didn’t see your grind. We can’t stop from falling for someone, we can’t pick who we love or grow feeling for, and not even the doctor has the cure for that. People get comfortable when they feel comfortable, forgetting that the “nice” things we strive for in life cost, not only money but sacrifice.
We do things in love that we think is for the best of us but people change, situations change & motives becomes altered. What we think is a good thing is not always the best thing! Sometimes that upgrade can just be a seat change.
Verse 3:
See when the love is gone then it’s just B.S. left
Just niggaz with chains on tryna be S.F.
That’s when your ace boom coon ya B.F.F.
Pa-Pa-Pa-Pachang ya like they was a P.F. chef
Da-Da-Da-Danger, it just feels ‘Mystikal’
I miss the cool nights sittin in the Coll-O
Now it’s like boooo we sittin’ in Apollo
It used to be all good then shit just went mallo
And that’s bad, matter fact that’s sad
Cuz when you lose a friend it’s hard to handle the loss
They do some bitch shit gotta give ya man a divorce
End up watchin Friends like Joey, Chandler and Ross, ya see
Most of these niggaz ain’t never love ‘em
And these bitches just think whatever of ‘em
So maybe playin’ dumb was kinda clever of ‘em
And less friends are your best friends become strangers.
The Streets are the most aggressive come up in the “business” world! Anyone dealing in any type of street corporation knows that “pachangas” are inevitable, its one of the few guarantees in the street code, it’s just a matter of when & who would cross you. Fortunately smart dudes keep their circle smaller than shoe string hole but there is no hiring manager for the streets any fool, or idiot who isn’t “street” can enter the game & get it mixed up with sucker moves.
The Game produces more breakups to makeup stories than a troubled relationship, a huge portion of dudes in the streets have no loyalty but it’s the easiest gig to get into but the hardest to maintain. The “pachangas” ultimately get flushed out having damaging effects to who they crossed, so the trick is to lock in on who is or isn’t capable of “pachanga-like” activities.
(Hook)
A thug changes and love changes
And best friends become strangers, Pachangas
Pa-Pa-Pachangas , Pa-Pa-Pachangas
A thug changes and love changes
And best friends become strangers, Pachangas
Pa-Pa-Pachangas , Pa-Pa-Pachangas
Friends, Enemies, what does it matter? At the end of the day all that matters is family, your future & the success we all strive for. We lose friends, gain friends every other day, the problem with having problems is & will always be miscommunication! Everyone always thinks he/she deserves more than their getting, we all want the limelight; we want what’s owed to us! Some even want credit & respect for things not owed to them!
Love does change & best friends usually become strangers, its one of the few things guaranteed in life! Keep ya eyes on ya circle, before they hurt you!
By K.E.L.L.s



